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10 shirts you can’t wear to school buzzfeed

10 shirts you can’t wear to school Buzzfeed – So what is appropriate clothing and what is not and who has the right to tell us what is what? Controversy over kids being sent home over certain attire in recent years has been raising this question and it seems to be one that rages.

When I was at school we wore a uniform, a shirt, tie, trousers, black shoes and a blazer unless it was hot. Short sleeve shirts were permitted in the summer but the tie always had to be worn! It was extremely strict and I hated it. However I see some merit to uniform now considering the problems freedom of dress can cause within a communal setting like a school.

I’m not saying kids should be wearing strict uniforms like I did but I think some guidelines that allow a certain amount of freedom without causing problems (especially amongst parents moreso than kids!).

Buzzfeed published a list of t-shirts that had gotten kids sent home from school and it’s a varied and interesting list. Most were for political statements but some hate speech and symbolism! Below is a summary of the list.

1. Islam Is Of The Devil – A 10 year old girl in Gainesville was obviously sent home for this message!

2. Barack Obama: A Terrorists Best Friend – And a boy last year arrived with this patriotic message in his shirt!

3. The N Word – An 8 year old probably shouldn’t be embroiled in these word politics!

4. The Confederate Flag – Well, there is history to this! The 12 year old was sent home from Markham Intermediate School in Staten Island. However he says he wears it because he is a civil war buff, not because of any hate or racism.

5. Juicy Angel – A $75 shirt that is probably age inappropriate saw a middle school student sent home.

6. All Camouflage – Apparently this is gang attire so a 16 year old girl in Lowell, MA was sent home for wearing such dress.

7. Shirts With Pictures Of Fetuses – 12 year olds displaying graphic images on Ts for  “National Pro-Life T-Shirt Day.” may well get you sent home!

8. Professional Terrorist Hunter – One freshman at  Penn Manor School was asked to turn the gun displaying shirt inside out.

9. Virginity Rocks - Albemarle County, Virginia students have been banned from wearing this shirt.

10. Be Happy, Not Gay – This hand written shirt had the words “not gay” scrawled out by a school counselor in Illinois.

The full list and details can be seen here: http://bzfd.it/1e2KNqi

Now, personally I don’t have an issue with a kid sticking up for an issue they believe in and actually dialogue should be encouraged, however in some cases it’s parents using kids as pawns, that’s wrong!

Within a school setting it may be easier to enforce a no-statement code of dress to stop these kids of problems but of course it’s far easier to say that than to enforce.

What do you think?

Wife exposes affair all over mistresses Walmart

Wife exposes affair all over mistresses Walmart – Revenge is sweet, right? We all know the saying and all have participated in some act of revenge be in small or extravagant! The idea is that once you have your own back you can get past the event that triggered the anger in the first place!

In the case of this story a wife decided it was a good idea to post pictures of her husband and a woman he had an affair with, having sex, all around a Walmart that she worked at.

In some ways it could be viewed as funny but kids were potentially able to see the images and it could have lost the women her job.

Engaging in a relationship with a married man may be seen as immoral but I don’t think these personal issues should be dealt with in the public sphere like this, my opinion!

I’m not saying they should be hidden away either but we are adults and this story got me thinking about anger and reaction. We are all capable of some crazy things if pushed to it, especially when love, sex and relationships are involved!

The woman who posted the images has now been charged with one count of pandering obscenities but is saying she is not guilty. It’s now in the hands of the legal system and hopefully the fair and right outcome will be the result (yes I know it’s not always that way!!). More details on that story can be read here: http://bit.ly/1jYI6XD

We all get caught up in personal problems and this story got me thinking about how I have reacted in the past and how I try to deal with problems now.

I don’t think revenge is actually that sweet. Personally I find bigger solace in letting go and moving on. By not reacting, normally, you position yourself better mentally. People who continue to act inappropriately will eventually cause themselves problems, I believe. If they made one mistake then maybe they don’t deserve the punishment.

When it comes to relationships, if someone “plays away” or does something bad then why would you want to be with them anyway? I know logic and love don’t work well together but seriously you need to be with someone who cares for you. If infidelity happens it needs to be discussed, you both need to assess where it fits into your life. I personally feel the third person is usually not the one to blame!

What do you think on revenge and how to deal with such personal problems?

Tips on how to learn leadership from a bad boss

They say that you always learn from your mistakes but there is no reason why you can’t learn from the mistakes of others too and if you have aspirations to be a boss or in any position of leadership then having a bad boss may be some of the best schooling you can get.

From an employee perspective you are in the trenches, with the others who have to endure the results of bad boss communication, treatment and decisions. Turn the negative into a positive and start seeing this as a kid of example not to follow, an opportunity to see how certain scenarios can play out and how your fellow workers take these scenarios and react.

I would use the time under the helm of a bad boss to start a kind of personal handbook and would even consider a diary of events and consequences. If a lack of communication peed everyone off, write it down, see how others dealt with it, how did you feel?

If a boss is mean or demeaning see how it affects productivity, what people did to react to it. Did they cower in fear or did they cut back on working hard?

When a bad boss makes a bad decision for the company did people speak up, roll their eyes and carry on, riding the company train closer to it’s demise with a knowing smirk?

If a boss is simply incompetent but nice do people take pity, do they get help from the people they are supposed to lead?

All of these scenarios are interesting case study elements that can create experiences to shape yourself and your persona and actions when you climb that ladder and take a leadership role.

What do you think? Is this nonsense, have you ever had a valuable lesson from a bad boss? Do you have more to add?

SECRETS OF THE LIVING DOLLS DOCUMENTARY

Secrets of the living dolls documentary – I have to admit it never even crossed my mind that there are people out there who wear flexible body suits to look like their dream woman! It wouldn’t surprise me if there was just a few but apparently there are thousands all over the world, many living normal lives and keeping the hobby secret!

A new documentary showing on the UK’s Channel 4 looks into the world of these men who are sometimes known as ‘dolls’ but it’s more officially called ‘female masking’.

At first glance I know many people are going to say it’s disgusting, weird, wrong etc etc but lets get real here. People are people and I am sure some of them are decent, some of them are not, some maybe have issues that make them want to hide away behind a mask and some may want to be a woman but not have the means to change. At the end of the day a million reasons could lead someone to become part of an interesting community like this and I don’t see why we should look down on them for it.

A clip from the documentary can be seen below.

Society creates our views and desires to a large extent and these people are doing something outside of the mould because they want to. No matter how weird or odd we think it is I think we should respect that as long as it does not cause harm to anyone else.

For many of these people the dressing up is a hobby, pure escapism and a bit of fun. Meet ups like the Minneapolis ‘Rubberdoll Rendezvous’ show that there is some element of fun to the whole thing and it’s not just people who feel they are the wrong gender or have serious mental issues.

The documentary aired on Channel 4 on January 6th. It’s available to watch on Channel 4′s catch up service 4OD (UK only) but hopefully will aire in the States soon.

Do you think these people should be looked down upon, forced to change? Or should they be able to do whatever they like, without judgement from us?

TWO DRUNKS CUT OFF OWN EARS FOR A BET

Two drunks cut off own ears for bet – It seems that these days Russia and in particular Siberia is becoming the source of ever weirder news stories but this story about a drunken bet that left two men needing medical attention and missing ears raised a few thoughts, at least in my mind!

News reports are saying that two Siberian miners from the southern Siberian Kemerovo region entered into an arm wrestling contest with each other while heavily drunk and celebrating orthodox Christmas.

They made a deal that the loser would cut off his ear.

So, after two rounds and one loss each they agreed that they were both losers and the ears have to go. One of the men cut off all of his left ear and the other cut around half off leading to both men requiring treatment and police left wondering if it’s a crime to self mutilate!

Although a very extreme case you can imagine that bravado, honor and of course the irrationality of alcohol led to the situation and less severe versions of this happen with drunk people all over the world on a daily basis.

Without knowing the people involved it is hard to say if they would be just as stupid sober but I would guess not and the story had me thinking of all the dumb things I have done under the influence.

Alcohol, like any most substances, is able to be enjoyed recreationally but a culture of being a certain way has led to the kind of scenes you see in most college towns late at night. Hoards of screaming men and women, doing stupid things, getting in stupid trouble and acting out of sorts.

I’m not saying that drinking or anything has to be banned but we need to seriously judge the culture that surrounds it and consider how we may go about changing it from within ourselves and for those around us.

What do you think?

NICOLAS BERGGRUEN LIVES OUT OF OVERNIGHT BAG AND IN HOTELS

Have you ever heard of the Homeless Billionaire? Well that’s a name given to billionaire Nicolas Berggruen. He is said to live from an overnight bag in hotels. He also flys from place to place in his private jet so while he doesn’t stay settled he doesn’t exactly rough it! But he doesn’t have to live like this….

He sold almost all his possessions and hit the road years ago. Still worth around $2.3 billion he isn’t likely to run short soon and his services and advice as are still in demand by many companies so he still brings in the dough from time to time.

Now of that money he makes, he is said to give much of it to causes and he runs a think tank on good governance and is heavily involved in the arts.

On top of all that he has joined the giving pledge, a pledge set up by Warren Buffet and Bill and Melinda Gates encouraging billionaires to give over 50% of their wealth to good causes.

So, the message is he lives against the grain. If every billionaire gave a little more like him would things be different? If so, would that difference be good or bad?

Read more about this interesting man on Wikipedia - http://bit.ly/1aMjRWh

TIGER HUNT AFTER FOURTH VICTIM KILLED IN INDIA

A fourth victim killed by what is believed to be a wild tiger that has strayed from it’s reserve 110km away is in process of being labelled a ‘man hunter’ and is being searched for by elephant riding police in Northern India.

There are only around 1700 tigers left in India and that accounts for about 50% of the world’s tiger population. One of those will likely soon be dead as it has claimed 4 victims since December 29th in a village in the state of Uttar Pradesh. The last victim was a 40 year old woman this past wednesday.

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Villagers are protesting through fear and anger that the big cat has not been caught and the local state are hurrying the process to have the protected beast labelled a man eater so it’s execution becomes legal. At present elephant riding forest police are hunting it in a bid to drive it back to the reserve.

Man eaters have always happened, when humans mix with tigers I guess many of them see us as no different to any other animal out there and we can’t blame them for that. The issue is that we are mixing more and more. Poachers are dwindling the population and their food is running scares, their habitat is shrinking rapidly and in general we are encroaching more and more into their world. I won’t be too surprised if there is a markable rise in man eaters over the next few years.

Details for this story were sourced from BlogAboutAnimals.com.

KIM BASINGER BAD FILMS

KIM BASINGER BAD FILMS – Kim Basinger has been talking to the UK press and it seems she is apologising for being in terrible comedies! It’s not that often that people in the spotlight basically admit to not doing a good job in the past but I respect it and in many ways we can all learn from her stand.

She told the Daily Express

“I know what it takes to put a film together but I can’t help produce some really bad comedies sometimes. I’m sorry.

“I’ve made some bombs in my life but I came from comedy and worked with some really great people who taught me so much. I had great teachers so whenever I get to exercise that, I do.”

Ok, not a full on apology but a nod that some of her work is less than stella! In all honesty I can’t even remember her in any comedy movies.

When we get to a certain point in our life it’s easy to sit back regretting things we could have done differently but I think Kim has it right here.

It’s probably healthy to see what we have done that’s good, bad or things we would do differently if faced with the same thing now but we can’t beat up ourselves. Learning from our past and enjoying where it’s brought us is the important thing and regret will only make us depressed.

Be who you are now and be happy with that. Of course though, it’s ok to joke about some of the dodgy things you have done before! Just take out the 80s school photos and look at the hair….

Roxanna Ramirez Target kidnapping

Roxanna Ramirez Target kidnapping  – This story just shows what being vigilant on your job could do. Roxanna Ramirez, a Target employee, noticed strange behavior from a customer in the store. She took precautions and when he left the store she went out and noted down his license. That for her was the end of observations but later on that evening her hunch became a crucial part in solving a kidnapping.

Ramirez, loss prevention specialist,  noticed the man acting strange in-store. He was picking things up, putting them down. She approached him and asked if he needed help, he said no. So she went and monitored him from her office over CCTV.

She watched him leave the store and saw on the camera that he was pacing the car park. So she went outside and noted down his license plate.

Later that evening a friend got an alert that a child had been abducted. Ramirez said that the description fit a guy from the store earlier and her friend encouraged her to call in.

The tip led straight to the recovery of the abducted girl. He had followed the mother and her daughter from their shopping trip and abducted the girl outside of her home.

Roxanna is being hailed as a hero. More details can be read on KTVU - http://bit.ly/1krOTfO

Although she undoubtedly did the right thing there is a fine line between suspecting ill behavior and signaling people out. We all have to stay alert but have to also be careful not to harass and follow innocent people because they are a bit different or weird, a sad side effect sometimes of trying to be vigilant!

What do you think?

Tips for negotiating a raise

Best ways to negotiate salary Looking at some of the best ways to negotiate a raise

The new year is here and hopefully the economy and job situation may perk up. This may put you in a great position to negotiate a raise or you may be getting a new job where you have to negotiate your salary. Just be sure of what you deserve and hopefully you will get what you want. I must admit I used to be terrible at this but after a few years of it and learning to know my worth I think I got reasonable at it! Here are some of my top tips.

Tips for negotiating a raise

Know the going salary - Before you even think about negotiating salary you should know your worth. Search online, call business associations and even ask your colleagues what they get paid if you dare. If you can get some ball park figures for the salaries in your field and you fall below or you are going for a new job then you could have good reason to negotiate the right figure.

Make yourself indispensable – This applies for people already within a job mostly but also if you are on 3 month trial before negotiating final salary. Work out ways to make yourself indispensable at work. Get involved in projects that need you and work hard to pioneer new ideas and help stream line systems. Motivate those around you and keep great contact lines with all your boses.

Never be unreasonable - When you know your worth then even if indispensable it is a bad idea to try and hold anyone to blackmail by demanding a ridiculous salary. Be fair and reasonable and ask for the money that you really are worth. A stupidly high demand may well end up in a bad end and your reputation could be harmed.

Know your job and your bosses job 100% - The best way to get good money is to be very competent. If you can show that you know your job perfectly and even know the majority of what your bosses do in their working life then you can show commitment, understanding and efficiency. The ability to do your job unsupervised is probably the no1 factor that will help in you arranging a higher salary for a new or existing job.

Some of these tips and ideas are expanded in my post How To Ask For A Raise.

If you have any great tips or ideas that you have picked up along the way or would just like to leave a comment then please do not hesitate. I love to hear your thoughts!

Now good luck getting the salary you deserve and thanks for reading.